Monthly Archives: July 2008

nothing to report

There’s absolutely nothing new to report. No calls at all. Not one. I thought I’d post some pictures of our nursery, which is now complete. I do have some good news though! My brother and his girlfriend are having a baby! I’m so excited to be an auntie!

I’m way infatuated with etsy right now. The blanket on the side of the crib is from klarson.etsy.com. The starfish lamp was $12.99 at Home Goods (gotta love a deal) and the letters that spell “Love” were $1.50 from Michael’s.

Pardon the junk on the dresser. The white mirror is from Target.

Andrew painted the coral mural.

I got the idea for the number frames from a magazine. This idea is super cheap. The frames are $6.99 from Ikea, and I printed out the numbers on photography paper.

The fabric whale came from fattycakes.etsy.com. So cute! The little baby blanket on the chair came from ablemabel.etsy.com.

This little turtle came from BeanPickleSprout.etsy.com.

As a sidenote, my stats show 50 hits on my blog today alone. I feel lonely people! Why aren’t you commenting? Don’t you know all bloggers love comments? ; )

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things i am grateful for

first things first. i am an english teacher. yes, an english teacher. i love words and letters (my most recent obsession is typography). typically my blog writing goes like this: write blog, read over for errors, publish. check site. oops, mistake with spelling. edit and save. check site. punctuation error. edit and save. so, i’ve decided to stop with this madness. this is MY blog, and so for those of you who see errors i will apologize here and now and this should serve for any future errors.

as for thursday…not a good day.

1. woke up and andrew asked me if i moved a planting from out front (we have succulents planted out in front of our house in the ground and pots spread throughout them, also planted with succulents). no, i hadn’t. so…someone stole our pot! just one mind you, but this really upset me. who would steal something like this? i mean someone stole our obama lawn sign months ago, but i took it as either someone who was a clinton or mccain supporter or someone who really, really supported obama. do you think if i posted this picture around the neighborhood someone would turn in the culprit? (i am totally kidding).

2. the washer repairmen came by to fix our washing machine (btw, i haven’t done laundry in over a week since it was broken). the problem? rats ate some tubing in the machine. RATS? yes, you read it correctly, we occasionally have rats that live in our garage. it’s totally gross, but thank goodness there is no entry way from our garage into the house (you have to go into the backyard or frontyard from the house to get into the garage). now,  when we first found out we had rats i felt sorry for the poor creatures and was totally against killing them, but now? after they broke the washing machine? after they ate through 3 plastic dog food containers? after they totally ruined some very cute holiday decorations? i want them gone!

3. the worst part of thursday was, of course, hearing from the social worker.

after this call i had had it with that day. i was over it and really had to slap myself out of it. the only way i could think to do it was to write down everything i am grateful for so here it is…

1. God-there is no way i could get through my hard days without God and my faith. i am very grateful that my parents gave me faith. i know that i complained many a time about going to church, but i’m very glad that my mom made me do it. i’m not so great about attending church now (which is something i know i need to work on), but i talk to and listen to God every single day.

2. my husband-i am very lucky to have andrew as a husband. he adores me and even writes poetry to me still. even though we have had some hard times they have brought us closer together and have made us a stronger couple. marriage is very hard at times, but i’m glad i’m going through this journey with him. we just celebrated our 2 year anniversary on july 10, and one of the presents he gave me was a box of my favorite chocolates-bordeaux from see’s!

 

3. my family-i love my family so much. they are fractured right now since my grandma passed away, and not in the usual ‘hurting because someone passed’ kind of way, but in a way that i don’t really want to discuss here. i pray to God every day that the family will heal, and know that in time it will happen. my best memories are of spending weekends at my grandma’s with all my aunts, uncles, and cousins, and i can’t wait for our child/children to experience something like that.

 

 

 4. friends-i have a great group of friends that are always there for me no matter what. i have found that the older i got i lost touch with friends who really weren’t friends, and have kept the ones close that i can really trust. there are a couple friends from my childhood, though, that i need to re-connect with because i miss them.

5. our pets-these guys keep me company when i’m alone. they are fabulous listeners, and always, always lick my face when i’m crying to make me feel better (i know, i know…they like the salt…just humor me). i can’t imagine a life without dogs and cats. when i was little i remember walking home from school one day in the second grade and telling my friend that my dream was to “have cats and dogs and they all get along”. well it kind’ve came true, right?

6. our house-we are truly blessed to own our home in our neighborhood. we live in a safe place where everyone walks around with their kids and dogs; it’s really a great place to raise a kid. there’s a park nearby and so many places to see in just a short drive away. the house was a mess when we bought it, but we’ve really made huge improvements. i absolutely love my garden. i always dreamed of having my own garden, and that dream has definitely come true. every year it gets better because i learn more about growing things. in the mess that the housing market is (especially in ca) we are really lucky to have our own home.

7. travel-wow. with so many people struggling in this economy i know that we are lucky to go on our adventures. my mom has always worked in the travel industry so she gave me the travel bug when i was born. i absolutely have to go places. we are very fortunate to have the vacation time and funds to do it as much as we do. thinking about this one got me thinking about my trip to paris last year. i haven’t been able to scrapbook that trip so it will be on the next post so that mistee and i can reminisce. i was missing paris so much yesterday, i found this blog.

8. washer/dryer-i know this sounds lame, but after getting it fixed  i really appreciate this modern convenience. after my parents’ divorce we lived in couple of apartment/condo complexes where you have to bring your laundry down to the community washer/dryer room. i hated this, as i was in charge of all the laundry (hmmm…still am). when i moved into a place with my own washer/dryer i was in heaven! it’s just like when i pass someone waiting at the bus stop, which i had to do when i moved back home from college and didn’t have a car. hated it! every time i see someone waiting for the bus i thank the Lord that i have a car!

9. the birds outside our bedroom window-we are on the second set of baby birds this year that have been born in our patio just off of our bedroom. every morning i hear mom/dad feeding them and it is so precious. i think”mom” is a first-timer. she feeds them, then “dad” screams at her, then does it himself. he’s kind of mean about it at times.

10. pick-up-stix online-yes, you can order online now, and after having such a terrible day the last thing i wanted to do was to cook so…i remembered that you can order pick-up-stix chinese food (ok, ok, i know it’s not REAL chinese food but i happen to think it’s delicious) online.

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"not right now"

God’s answer to adoption this week is “not right now”. Our SW called today. This little boy has already been matched with someone else (last Thursday). Should this matched family decide they do not want to proceed then we will be considered. My heart is broken today, but I’m trying to focus on my gratitude. Someday His answer will be “yes”.

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update

I haven’t wanted to write about what’s going on with our adoption for fear of putting a jinx on things (I can be a bit superstitious), but then I thought about why I started the blog in the first place and thought it was silly. If I’m documenting everything for our child then I should be able to write about every step of the journey, from frustrations, anxieties, and uncertainties, to dreams coming true, which will eventually happen. In fact, I have yet to share my blog with friends and family, so that is my next goal. Thus far I’ve only shared the blog with people I’ve “met” through blogging, and for those people I am eternally grateful, for they have helped me through some terrible moments.

 

Anyway, there have been some events happening in our adoption. About two weeks ago, a friend from work, Ellen, told us about a little boy she knew that was going to be put up for adoption soon. She socializes with his foster family and had been thinking about what would happen to him when she remembered that we were trying to adopt. I spoke with her and she told me how great this kid was, despite what he had been through thus far. He is totally thriving despite having a shunt and had met all his milestones. He had just turned 1 on June 7. I told her yes, we were definitely interested in hearing more so she put us in contact with his foster mother. She, too, told us how great he was and after talking with his adoption worker we set up a time to meet (last Thursday).

 

Well, for some reason, my husband decided to “do the right thing” and follow the rules. If you knew my husband you would know that he is not great at following rules so this was sort of out of character for him, but that’s a whole other post in itself. : 0 He decided it was best to call our social worker. When I talked to our SW, she told me that she couldn’t stop us from seeing him, but that this was definitely a “shortcut” that wasn’t recommended.  I know Andrew did what was best, but I really, really wanted to meet this little boy, and on our wedding anniversary!

 

On Thursday, “the day”, I heard from the foster mother. The adoption worker heard something in our SW’s voice that gave her the feeling that we should postpone the meeting. I certainly didn’t want to get anyone in trouble, but selfishly I was upset. I had to really have a conversation with myself to take it slow, and believe that if this is God’s path for us then it will happen. So….we didn’t meet this little boy. I did, however, hear from our SW that day and she got all the necessary medical and behavioral information regarding this little boy. The next step is for our SW to meet with his SW and adoption worker, which I was hoping would happen this week (we gave the green light to this today). Andrew talked to our SW today, however, and she said that this meeting would happen sometime within the next 2-3 weeks. UGH…more waiting. After that meeting, then we would meet with the three of them and would finally be shown a picture. She said we may still get calls on other children, but if/when we said yes to move forward with this little boy then those calls would cease, which makes total sense to me.

 

If you’re reading this, please send us your positive thoughts. I have faith that I will be a mom soon, but the waiting can be very intolerable. I have been keeping busy with reading and domestic duties (I am off for the summer because I am a teacher), but it sometimes saddens me that all of this free time could be best spent with a child. Andrew and I also have another trip coming up to Arizona. I guess I just need to savor this time and quiet alone with myself and my husband, something I’m sure I’ll crave later at times. We are back to school on August 25, so if this does work out it looks as if I’ll be using some sick time at the beginning of the school year.

 

I wanted to mention a blog I found recently, Adopting August. If you can, help this couple out with their adoption by buying one of their very cool shirts!

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to decorate or not to decorate?

Here is an article from this week’s Los Angeles Times:

It discusses couples deciding to create their nursery while waiting for a baby. In our case, we were required to have a crib, etc. in order to “pass” our home study. Fortunately, we had friends who generously let us borrow their baby crib, so we set up a room and decorated as best we could with what we had. Once I was off for the summer I really wanted to set up the nursery the way I wanted it. Slowly, but surely, we have been adding things here and there.

 

Another great article I read this week was on teaching kids manners. I am BIG on manners, and feel that this is primarily the parents’ duty. If we were in the position to also send our child to a class such as the one discussed in the article I might do it, but I don’t see myself wanting to spend the money on this sort of a class when I can do it myself. What I fear is that parents will want to send their kids to this kind of a class, then not do their job! I’ve seen this often in my classes (I’m a high school teacher). What are your thoughts???

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jumping when the phone rings

Aaaaggghhh! My phone was ringing off the hook today, and every time I jumped because I thought it might be “the call”. None of them were, although they were all very nice calls. Let’s see…an invite to a party, a reminder about a doctor’s appointment, another reminder about a hair appointment… No offense to my friends, doctor, and stylist, but I really, really want to hear from our social worker. Please call! I have been reading like mad and just generally being a bum while on vacation. It has been truly wonderful. I haven’t been blogging for the simple fact that there’s no news. In this case, no news is not good news. : ( No worries! I’m keeping the faith!

This is where I’ve been hangin’ out…when Duke’s not sunning himself!

Chelsea’s new favorite hangout is the crib. She will not be a happy camper when the baby comes!

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