Monthly Archives: November 2008


i hope everyone’s holiday was full of joy, rest, and lots of good food! andrew, j, and i had a week off from school, so i took a little blog break as well. i think black friday messed with my sleeping schedule, however, as it’s 3 a.m. and i’m up! our week was full of rest, family, lots of pre-holiday preparation, eating, and decking the halls for christmas. the lights are on the house, the tree is up, and i’ve tried to get a head-start on gift wrapping. i just love this time of year, and even more so now that we have j. i am thankful for so much: my husband, j, my family, pets, home, job, and all the little things i take for granted every day like clean water, clothing, electricity, transportation.

j’s 19 month mark came and went and he’s changing so much as each new day passes. it’s really incredible to witness. he says so many new words and his {very charming} personality is emerging right before our eyes. on thanksgiving day he took a great three hour nap so he was a joy. he just loved having the family here and received loads of attention. he really does not like when parties end and actually cries when people start leaving!

a couple weeks ago we found out he had a double ear infection so he was put on antibiotics. when the course of medicine was finished he felt so much better. his cough disappeared and he was sleeping more easily. that lasted for about three days. last tuesday he had a terrible coughing fit so andrew took him to the doctor. well he FORCED himself into the doctor’s office. they couldn’t take him at first, but andrew insisted, spoke to a supervisor, and she agreed that he needed to be seen. thank goodness he took him that day; i just am not agressive or assertive enough to get that kind of action. turns out his infection was still going strong and the doctor thought he was having an asthma attack, possibly triggered by the fires. they gave him a breathing treatment and we do have to use ibuterol as needed. we are waiting for a breathing maching to arrive for home, but after that day he only coughs every once in awhile. they also prescribed more aggressive antibiotics. he is feeling so much better, however, the meds are giving him diarrhea, which in turn is giving him a diaper rash. poor little guy. to top it all off, i haven’t been the healthiest either. i have had a cough for over a week now, but luckily it seems to be wearing off. i even had to use two precious sick days last week because i had laryngitis. i hate to use sick days when i’m sick. : )

we had another visit from j’s social worker. she hasn’t heard from j’s birth mom, nor have we. the .26 hearing (to recommend termination of parental rights) is december 11. andrew and i are both going. j’s lawyer and social worker both said we should be there and we are {selfishly} praying that rights are terminated so we can adopt him. we want what’s best for him, and of course we feel that we are what’s best for him! : ) we love him so much and can’t imagine him leaving. it’s really something that we talk about only briefly once in awhile because the thought of him not being around is just too hard to bear. i just have faith that God’s looking out for him and us and what will happen will happen. what more can we do? we are just enjoying every day we have with him.

j says so many words now. he says please (peas) and thank you (dunk you), which is adorable, and has even said them unprompted. he also recites the first line of his favorite book over and over again (brown bear, brown bear, what do you see?). he has a very animated personality and makes a mad face (eyebrows furrowed) and then goes right into his surprise face (eyes really wide and mouth open). he loves lights so christmastime is very exciting for him. he just loves the seven lighted reindeer on our house and every time he sees a christmas tree he says “wow”. this morning we heard him wake up, leave his room, look at our tree and say “wow” before he came into our room. that kid wakes up happy every single morning. i have never been a morning person,but how can you be grumpy when a little one wakes up smiling? too cute.

tomorrow it’s back to work. wouldn’t it be lovely to just have off the whole month of december to enjoy the holidays? i just want to stay home with my two guys, bake, craft, and listen to holiday music. if only. okay, okay i’m spoiled. we do have winter break coming up in three weeks. just tell me to be quiet.


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beware the gift card, holiday shoppers!

thanks, audrey (soon-to-be mom of my little nephew!) for the heads up…

many stores will be closing shop soon, but are still selling gift cards through the holidays. these cards will be useless come january 1. no law prevents them from doing so, referred to as ‘bankruptcy planning’. here is a list of some stores that may pose potential problems for those shopping with gift cards…

Circuit City filed Chapter 11
Ann Taylor 117 stores nationwide closing
Lane Bryant, Fashion Bug ,and Catherine’s to close 150 stores nationwide
Eddie Bauer to close stores 27 stores and more after January
Cache will close all stores
Talbots closing down specialty stores
J. Jill closing all stores (owned by Talbots)
Pacific Sunwear closing all stores (also owned by Talbots)
GAP closing 85 stores
Footlocker closing 140 stores more to close after January
Wickes Furniture closing down
Levitz closing down remaining stores
Bombay closing remaining stores
Zales closing down 82 stores and 105 after January
Whitehall closing all stores
Piercing Pagoda closing all stores
Disney closing 98 stores and will close more after January.
Home Depot closing 15 stores 1 in NJ ( New Brunswick )
Macys to close 9 stores after January
Linens and Things closing all stores
Movie Gallery closing all stores
Pep Boys closing 33 stores
Sprint/Nextel closing 133 stores
JC Penney closing a number of stores after January
Ethan Allen closing down 12 stores.
Wilson Leather closing down all stores
Sharper Image closing down all stores
K B Toys closing 356 stores
Lowes to close down some stores
Dillard’s to close some stores 

on the bright side, maybe they’ll have some amazing sales?

santa (aka andrew),
i also spotted this locket on etsy at timeless trinkets. now if you only won’t stop asking me for the blog address when i’ve sent it to you three times! : ) maybe this locket will fit your head.


i couldn’t resist and bought myself this necklace the other day.


does anyone else love shopping the day after thanksgiving? i do! i don’t have really anything to buy since i’m almost done with my holiday shopping, but am eager to go if there are some great deals.


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too cute…and free!




i found these here. and you just have to check out danni’s shop here.

if santa’s reading this, i would really like this swan pendant from danni’s shop. it’s gorgeous!

lovely swan pendant necklace, vintage, gold detailing, colorful

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[fitting in]



oh, how i’ve been thinking of this lately. i have realized something. i have never fit in totally anywhere. oh, i know some of you who know me would disagree, but it’s really true, and i have realized that this is a blessing. 

when i was a kid, growing up in a lily-white neighborhood, i was one of a few kids who looked like ME at school. it didn’t help that i was terribly shy and i never felt like i belonged. we moved to a very different neighborhood when i was 10 and i finally felt like i “fit in” because i didn’t stand out, but quickly realized that i didn’t totally fit in there either. i was a cheerleader in high school, but i was also in the “smart” classes (nothing to brag about…i wasn’t exactly the best in either role). i had my feet in two different worlds and couldn’t completely immerse myself in either one. it was hard at times, but looking back i realized that i was exposed to much more than the average person.

i have been thinking about this lately because i started blogging. i started the blog as an adoption blog, and quickly found other blogs, all kinds, about adoption. international, domestic, foster care. i started commenting on various adoption blogs (mostly international at first) hoping that i could communicate with those writers. turns out, i really didn’t fit in any of those categories. people who are adopting from vietnam, for example, wanted to obviously communicate with others who are doing the same. international adoption IS very different from adopting from foster care, but in my mind adoption was adoption. domestic adoption is also very different, and i didn’t quite fit in with that group either. those blog writers have an experience that is different from ours, discussing relationships with birth mothers and being “chosen” by them. turns out i didn’t fit in with the fost/adopt group either. i mean, we have been very lucky. no visits (yet) from birth parents who are struggling to get their lives together. no dealing with mean/incompetent/absent social workers. when i found out i had endo, i found others who were also dealing with infertility. guess what? didn’t fit in there either. so many women were dealing with so much more. trying for YEARS to get pregnant, some having children and losing them. i thought to myself, “how can i complain about my situation when others are dealing with so much more pain?” i felt guity at times. i didn’t need to get pregnant, but through reading these blogs could understand and accept that for some women that is very, very important. i emphathize with all those who are dealing with infertility, and thank them for exposing me, again, to different worlds. my favorite blogs are those that deal with adoption in general…attachment issues, transracial adoption issues and benefits, etc.

a few weeks ago, when i started work again, i quickly realized i couldn’t keep up with my regular blog addiction. i couldn’t comment on as many blogs as i used to. as a result, i lost readers. i felt, again, like i didn’t fit in, and actually felt sad for awhile. stupid, huh? when i got over it, i changed my focus of my blog, both how i view it and how i write for it. it’s now for me. if i can impart any knowledge to someone who’s new to the foster/adoption process, then great. if someone is reading for updates on our life with j, then great. if someone wants to check out cute stuff i find, then great. i have been keeping journals all my life, and this blogging thing works for me. i am attempting to record history, random though it may be. i hope you’ll continue reading. if not, that’s okay.

i want to thank those of you who read and comment regularly on my blog and email me…miranda, ashley, luann, emily t, kelly (sorry if i missed any of you). i appreciate all of you so much. if you are reading this, a comment now and again would make me feel great, but only if you’re inspired to comment. it’s enough for me to know that you’re reading, and my stats show that  a handful of you are. i like to know who’s reading, especially since my sitemeter says that i’m getting readers from all over the country (sometimes all over the world!).

“life’s not about fitting in; it’s about standing out.”-unknown

i want to stand out as a good mother, good wife, good daughter, good sister, good friend, good teacher. this blog will help keep me accountable. i hope you’ll follow along!

i am not one who regulary makes resolutions, but i am going to challenge myself in 2009. i found something on flickr called a self portrait challenge. the idea is to take a picture a day for one full year. that’s a bit much for me, but i figured i can do a week. i hate, hate, hate pictures of myself. now that i have photoshop, they’re not so bad! if you’re at all interested in doing the same, let me know!


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{weekend recap}

i am amazed at how different j is since he came to live with us. the past three months (can you believe it?) have been unbelievable. he has become this little person, and although he came to us with personality intact (and a great one at that!), he has grown by leaps and bounds. he says phrases now and makes us laugh on a daily basis. he already knows how to boss the dogs around (bad boy! and no!) and has made it clear that he knows how to flirt with every man, woman, child, and animal on this planet. there’s not a day that goes by that we don’t look at each other and say, with our words or just our eyes, how much we love this little boy. he’s just getting over a terrible flu, from no other than the flu shot, but today he was back to his old self.

i spent the weekend in watching this, listening to this (wow i heart her voice. she’s my new fave), shopping here and here (christmas shopping is almost done!) and crocheting j a little red scarf. so cal is having terrible wildfires right now, and my thoughts are consumed with the pain that those affected, people and animals, are feeling. our thoughts and prayers are with you.

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spread the hope.




see these beautiful prints? see if you can still get them here. artist jessica and her friend, renee, are sending these two prints out to spread the hope and optimism of our new presidency.

if they’re not available anymore, at the very least check out jessica’s beautiful etsy shop.

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{painting by jennie a. brownscombe via}

can you feel it?

there’s a feeling of change in the air. more optimism, more hope.  some of us are going through really hard times, but all of us should be grateful that we live HERE. i am grateful for so much. globally, 1.4 billion people live below the worldwide poverty line of $1.25 a day. i recently read that people in rich countries (like ours) use 10 times the amount of water as those in poor countries. ten times! it made me think of so many things we take for granted. let’s take this time to remember what we have to be grateful for.

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